Thursday, January 22, 2009

You Said "I Do", But Did You Really?

Okay someone explain this to me because I don't quite get it. Lately the question I have been pondering is...

You said "I Do".... but did you really?

I was having a conversation with one of my girls and the issue of facebook profiles came up. I told her that one of things I have noticed is that while there are a lot of things that men will display on their page... greek letter affiliations, current job, pics from new year's, I also noticed things that men are choosing not to put up... Oh, like their marital status. My girl says, "Yeah, it's like they are hype about the trip to Miami with the boys or homecoming hangin' out with frat, but there is nothing on their page to indicate that just last week they got married".

Isn't that just a little suspect or is it just me? I mean don't take my girl's statement literally, because there are several men on facebook that we know and know of that have been married for a while, but there ain't a hint of nothing to suggest they said, "I did".

And this issue can be extended and applied to streets of the "A" as well. I can't tell you the number of men I have met or know that, say their wedding ring got caught in the garbage disposal. And men have to know that the circles, even in the A, are small; I especially love the linesister connection ... it's is deep in this here town because I have seen a number of men get called out as they are attempting to wear their "single" shirt in the streets with a, "I know you from somewhere... what a minute, didn't you marry our soror?"And that is when he quietly clears his throat and whispers a, "Uh, I did".

So what my single friends don't get is, Why the single appearance? Do the wives know and endorse this or are they also operating with less than full disclousre? Like unless he is in some sort of arranged marriage situation, he made a conscious and sober decision to propose, and walk down the aisle to say "I do". So why the false pretense? Why do us single girls have to scope out the left hand, decipher whether the ring finger has the faint suntan line or slight indentation, and then call on the linesister police squad to verify or call his bluff?

So this is what SP contends: To the married man who knows more about what spots are the hottest, is kickin' it harder than his single boys, and as a souvenir of his night out, he got the most pics on his facebook profile surrounded by ladies cheesin', but hmmm.... there is notta one picture displayed of what should be the most important woman in his life....

Play fair, only because the single life is already hard enough and quite honestly, you made the conscious, sober decision to trade your single t-shirt for the nuptial necktie. So if you said "I do", then let me be the one to tell you, you really did. And for that reason... Well? You're single life was done! :) --SP

Special shout out to A.S. for coming up with this blog's title. I love it!

1 comment:

  1. so sad. so so so damn sad. You are right, it is hard enough out here. Are we not adults? Can some of the games come to an end. And what is the purpose. If you meet someone, unless it is for a 1 time physical, she will become suspiciious when you aren't picking up the phone between 10pm and 7am, or when you have to go out to eat the completely opposite side of town from where he claims to live. Thanks goodness I have never experienced this (not to my knowledge), but I will ceertainly be on the FB lookout from now on!

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